Providing further evidence that Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD) is not always what we tend to think it is, I submit the following experience from Blake’s recent therapy session:
I don’t frequently participate in Blake’s therapy anymore. In fact, if I do come in for something, he’s taken to asking me to leave at some point now. It’s a far cry from when he began therapy a year ago, or should I say refused therapy one year ago. But that’s another story one can dig into the archives to read. Let’s suffice it to say that Blake choosing to go into a therapy session and talk with his therapist alone is major progress. Recently, though, I asked to come in for clarification on how the therapist had requested that the hubby and I handle something.
The basic issue was this: Blake had returned to his habit of getting back in to bed or falling asleep on the sofa in the morning. I was growing tired of repeatedly waking him and wondered if our plan needed to be modified. Blake’s therapist was looking to understand what gets in Blake’s way of staying awake. That’s when he shared this interesting anecdote.
“I work with a woman who cannot begin work in the morning if she has a certain body ache. So, she’s taken to checking herself every morning to see if she has that body ache, and most of the time, she finds it. So, she can’t start working and she keeps monitoring herself until it is gone. Actually, it’s OCD.”
Do you get it? Do you see the OCD? If you don’t that’s okay; I’ll explain it shortly. First, here’s Blake’s response:
“Oh my gosh. I get that,” Blake says. “I wake up feeling miserable in the morning. I’m so tired and I feel sick. I know if I start on anything that it’ll be terrible and I won’t like my work. So, I won’t work if I feel that way.”
“Then what we need to teach you is to work even though you might have that feeling. We have to teach you to work through that feeling,” replied his therapist.
Wait, did my son just admit to some OCD in his life? I don’t know if he realized it, but his therapist just implied that his issue with getting up in the morning had to do with OCD – and he agreed…
Where’s the OCD?
If all that escaped you, or if you just can barely make out the OCD, let me help. Think of obsessions as something that brings anxiety or discomfort up. Think of compulsions as bringing anxiety or discomfort down. It’s that simple. Now, let’s look at the patient the therapist mentioned.
The woman who works from home believes she cannot work if she has a certain ache. The concern she will have that ache is the obsession. That brings her anxiety up. The checking her body for the ache is the compulsion, as are the monitoring and refusing to work. They bring her discomfort down.
Blake holds the belief that he will turn out what he calls “trash work” if he feels tired or sick. That’s the obsession; it brings his discomfort up. His compulsion? Returning to bed or lying down anywhere and just checking out. He’ll only work if he feels “just right.” And that brings his discomfort down.
Is it a stretch? Could an OCD pattern be part of what is holding Blake back right now? Maybe. Maybe not. It’s interesting how he jumped on the therapist’s comparison. So, I wonder in my mind. Is it OCD? Is it depression? The therapist’s notion that Blake needs to work right through his discomfort fits for both – at least that’s what I think. Now, let’s see if Blake starts to do it…